Teen Sexuality: Understanding It, Talking about It

Christian

Wilfried Amalemba, Debbie Dortzbach, Ndunge Kiiti, W. Meredith Long, Chris Mwalw’a, Esther Odhiambo, Paul Robinson, Growing Together: A Guide for Parents and Youth (Nairobi, Kenya: MAP International, 1996).

Lenore Buth, How to Talk Confidently with Your Child about Sex . . . and Appreciate Your Own Sexuality Too (St. Louis, MO: Concordia, 1998).

  • This book, one of a series of six, is designed for adults, to help them deal with their own sexuality, as well as provide practical assistance for married and single parents in their role as sex educators in the home. Each book provides information about the social-psychological and physiological aspects of human sexuality from a distinctively Christian point of view, and is age-appropriate in vocabulary and in the amount of information provided. The books for adolescents are Sex and the New You (ages 11-14) and Love, Sex, and God (ages 14+).

Cox, Melissa R. (ed.), Medical Institute for Sexual Health, Questions Kids Ask about Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age (Grand Rapids: Revell, 2005).

Marva J. Dawn, Sexual Character: Beyond Technique to Intimacy (Grand Rapids, Illinois: Eerdmans, 1993).

Stanton L. Jones and Brenna B. Jones, How and When to Tell Your Kids about Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character (Colorado Springs: Navpress, 1993).

  • Stan and Brenna Jones have also written a series of books for children to help parents answer questions comfortably and truthfully, in age-appropriate terms. Facing the Facts is for ages 11 to 14.

Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Passport to Purity (Little Rock, Arkansas: Family Life).

  • Designed to be used on a parent-child weekend get-away with a 10- to 15-year-old son or daughter. Five CDs help facilitate discussion of topics such as peer pressure, friendships, changes during puberty, and dating.

Paul David Tripp, Teens and Sex: How Should We Teach Them? (Phillipsburg, NJ: P & R Publishing, 2000)

Secular

Lynn Ponton, The Sex Lives of Teenagers: Revealing the Secret World of Adolescent Boys and Girls (Toronto, ON: Plume, a member of Penguin Putnam, Inc., 2000).

Laura Sessions Stepp, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both (New York: Riverhead, 2007).

Medical Implications

AIDS/HIV: Fables, Facts and the Future (Summer Night Communications, P.O. Box 28130, Fresno, California 93729-8130).

  • A two-hour video in four sections. It includes interviews with experts and with individuals personally touched by AIDS, and deals with medical data, public policy regarding condoms and abstinence, and the questions most commonly asked.

Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., Sexuality and Sexually Transmitted Diseases: A Doctor Confronts the Myth of “Safe” Sex (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker, 1990).

Joe S. McIlhaney Jr. and Freda McKissic Bush, Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children (Chicago: Northfield, 2008).

The Medical Institute for Sexual Health, Sex, Condoms and STDs: What We Now Know: “Safer sex” isn’t nearly safe enough (Austin, TX, 2002).

Abstinence-Based Guidelines, Curricula, Programs, and Services

Medical Institute for Sexual Health, Guidelines for Sexual Health Education [K-12] (Austin, TX: 2007)

Anne Newman and Dinah Richard, Healthy Sex Education in Your Schools: A Parents’ Handbook (Pomona, California: Focus on the Family, 1990).

The Art of Loving Well: A Character Education Curriculum for Today’s Teenagers (Boston: The Loving Well Project Boston University, 1993).

  • A 340-page anthology of 40 ethnically-diverse selections from both the classics and contemporary adolescent literature, to help adolescents learn responsible sexual and social values. Can be used on its own or to enrich a standard curriculum

Specifically Christian Curricula, Programs, and Resources

Bob and Dannah Gresh, Who Moved the Goalpost? Leader’s Guide: A Ten Session Retreat or Bible Study

 

Dannah Gresh, And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity Leader’s Guide

  • Interactive bible studies for teen girls

Critiques of Comprehensive Sex Education

Paul Danon, ed., Tried But Untested: The Aims and Outcomes of Sex Education in Schools (Oxford: Family Education Trust, 1995)

Josh McDowell, The Myths of Sex Education: Josh McDowell’s Open Letter to His School Board (San Bernardino: Here’s Life, 1990)

Richard C. Tompkins, Abstinence and “Safer Sex” Sexuality Education: A Comparison (Austin, TX: Medical Institute for Sexual Health, 1997).

Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, “The Failure of Sex Education,” The Atlantic Monthly (October 1994), 55-80.

Abortion

Guy Condon and David Hazard, Fatherhood Aborted: The Profound Effects of Abortion on Men (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House, 2001)

Synda Masse and Joan Phillips, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace after Abortion (Colorado Springs: Life Journey, 1998)

Bernard N. Nathanson, The Hand of God: A Journey from Death to Life by the Abortion Doctor Who Changed His Mind (Washington, D.C.: Regnery, 1996).

Sarah Williams, The Shaming of the Strong: the Challenge of an Unborn Life (Colorado Springs: Life Journey, 2005).

  • This is not about abortion per se, but rather about the agonizing decision faced by the author and her husband when they discover that the child she is carrying will not be able to survive birth.

Homosexuality

John Stott, Same-Sex Partnerships? A Christian Perspective (Grand Rapids, MI; Fleming H. Revell, 1998).

Edward T. Welch, Homosexuality: Speaking the Truth in Love (Phillipsburg, NJ: R&R Publishing, 2000).

Marriage

Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2004)

Shaunti Feldhahn and Jeff Feldhahn, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2006)

Parenting

Jean Fleming, A Mother’s Heart: A look at values, vision, and character for the Christian mother (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1982. Revised edition 1996).

Linda Harvey, Not My Child: Contemporary Paganism and the New Spirituality (Chattanooga, TN: Living Ink Books, 2008).

Madeline Levine, The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids (New York: HarperCollins, 2006).

Meg Meeker, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know (New York: Ballantine, 2006)

Wendy Mogel, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee (New York: Simon and Schuster, 2001).

Laura Sessions Stepp, Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children through Early Adolescence (New York: Riverhead, 2000)

Ron Taffel, The Second Family: Dealing with Peer Power, Pop Culture, the Wall of Silence – and Other Challenges of Raising Today’s Teens (New York: St. Martin’s Griffin, 2001).

Pornography

Lyndon Bowring (ed.), Searching for Intimacy: Pornography, the Internet and the XXX factor (Hyderabad, Colorado Springs, London: Authentic, 2005).

Michael Leahy, Porn Nation: Conquering America’s #1 Addiction (Chicago: Northfield, 2008).

Sexual Abuse

Timothy R. Kearney, Caring for Sexually Abused Children: A Handbook for Families and Churches (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 2001)

Steven R. Tracy, Mending the Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2005).

Resources for Teens

Bill Ameiss and Jane Graver, Love, Sex, and God (St. Louis, Missouri: Concordia Publishing House, 1998). Ages 14-young adult.

Rich Bimler, Sex and the New You (St. Louis, Missouri: Concordia Publishing House, 1998). Ages 11-14.

Gresh, Bob, Who Moved the Goalposts? 7 Winning Strategies in the Sexual Integrity Gameplan (Chicago, IL: Moody, 2001.)

Dannah Gresh, And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity (Chicago: Moody, 1999). www.purefreedom.org

Dannah Gresh, Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power of Modesty (n.p.: Moody, 2005)

Stanton L. Jones and Brenna B. Jones, Facing the Facts: The Truth About Sex and You (Colorado Springs: Navpress, 1995). Ages 11-14.

Donald Joy, Celebrating the New Woman in the Family (Anderson, IN: Bristol Books, 1994).

Donald Joy, Sex, Strength and the Secrets of Becoming a Man: A Celebration of Sexuality, Responsibility and the Christian Young Man (Ventura, CA: Regal Books, a division of Gospel Light, 1990).

Richie Lambeth, Innocence Lost, Hope Regained (Salem, OR: Amuzement Publications, 1999).

  • Eight teens and young adults tell in their own words their experience with virginity – lost, restored or saved until their wedding day.

Laura Sessions Stepp, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both (New York: Riverhead, 2007).

Walter and Ingrid Trobisch, My Beautiful Feeling (Bolivar, MO: Quiet Water Publications, 2003. First published in German. First published in English by InterVarsity Press, 1976).

  • An exchange of letters between Dr. and Mrs. Trobisch and a young German girl on the subject of masturbation.

Sex — with Attitude (Auckland, New Zealand: Parenting with Confidence, 1996). Available from Parents Inc., P.O. Box 37-708, Parnell, Auckland, New Zealand. www.attitude.org.nz

Youth Culture

Christian

George Barna, Real Teens: A Contemporary Snapshot of Youth Culture (Ventura, CA: Regal, 2001).

Peter Brierly, Reaching and Keeping Tweenagers (London: Christian Research, 2002).

Secular

Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why boys are different – and how to help them become happy and well-balanced men (Sydney, Australia: Finch, 1997).

David Elkind, All Grown Up and No Place to Go: Teenagers in Crisis (Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley, 1998), rev ed.

Michael Gurian, The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men (New York: Tarcher/Putnam, 1996)

Patricia Hersch, A Tribe Apart: A Journey into the Heart of American Adolescence (New York: Ballantine Books, 1998).

Mary Pipher, Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls (New York: Ballantine Books, 1994).

Resources for Teaching/Use with Younger Children

Ruth Anderson, Diane Santa Maria, Jennifer A. Shuford, Patricia Thickstun, Kate Hendricks, and Alejandra Eckel, Tell Me Now! Super Smart Doctors Who Talk about Sex (Austin, TX: The Medical Institute for Sexual Health, 2008).

  • This resource set, for children in 3rd to 5th grade, consists of two books – a Tell Me Now Educational Guide for adults and the Tell Me Now Activity Book, which includes activities to do with children to help them process what they learn – and the Tell Me Now DVD.

Kristen A. Jenson and Gail Poyner, Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids (Richland, WA: Glen Cove Press, 2015).

  • A read-aloud book to help children grow up free from the trap of pornography by installing an internal filter in their own brains.

Kevin Leman and Kathy Flores Bell, A Chicken’s Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2004).

Larry Christenson, The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made, with illustrations by Cheri Bladholm (Minneapolis: Bethany House Publishers, 2000).

  • A two-level book: The illustrations and the large-print text are designed for small children, ages 3 to 8, with a parent reading aloud to the child. The smaller-print paragraphs on each page give additional information for children eight years of age and older.

Jane Graver and Len Ebert. How You Are Changing: For Boys Ages 10-12 (Saint Louis, MO: Concordia, 2008).

Jane Graver and Len Ebert. How You Are Changing: For Girls Ages 10-12 (Saint Louis, MO: Concordia, 2008).

Carol Greene, Why Boys and Girls Are Different (Saint Louis, MO: Concordia, revised 1998). Ages 3-5.

Dannah Gresh, Secret Keeper Girl: The Power of True Beauty and Modesty. Great dates for You and Your Daughter (Chicago: Moody, 2003) www.secretkeepergirl.com

  • For 8 to 12 year old girls and their moms.

Human Development Resource Council, Inc., You Are a Masterpiece (Atlanta, GA: Small Fry Productions, 2001). DVD, ages 5-12 years.

  • The amazing world of life before birth is revealed in live-action video. Children interact with state-of-the-art computer animation and captivating in-utero photography.

Ruth Hummel, Where Do Babies Come From? (Saint Louis, MO: Concordia, 1998). Ages 6-8.

Stanton L. Jones and Brenna B. Jones, What’s the Big Deal? Why God Cares About Sex (Colorado Springs: Navpress, 1995). Ages 8-11.

Stan Jones, Brenna Jones, and Joel Spector, The Story of Me (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2007). Ages 3-5.

Carolyn Nystrom, Before I Was Born (Colorado Springs: NavPress, revised 1995). Ages 5-8.

Resources for College Age Students

 

Miriam Grossman, Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student (New York: Sentinel, a member of the Penguin Group, 2006).

Laura Sessions Stepp, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both (New York: Riverhead, 2007).

Lauren Winner, Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity (Grand Rapids: Brazos, 2005).

Lauren Winner, Sex Refocused: Bringing a Biblical Perspective of Sex Back into View (South Hamilton, MA: Ockenga Institute of Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, 2008). A set of four CDs.