What is a healthy view of sexuality, “right” thinking about sex? The Bible has much to say, from beginning to end. Moses wrote about sex. So did King Solomon. Jesus talked about it. The Apostle Paul wrote about sex in almost every letter.
Moses teaches that God created human beings male and female and said they should have children. So we could even say that God told them, “Have sex!” Sex is good, a gift from God. Moses wrote that God called the sixth day, the day on which he created Eve and brought her to Adam, a “very good” day, compared to the other five days of creation, which were “good” (Genesis 1:27, 28, 31).
In the second book of the Bible, Moses tells us, God said “It is not good for the man to be alone.” That is why he created woman, another human being but different from the man — someone just right for him, just what he needed. And because the woman was created out of the man, made from one of his ribs, male and female have always been attracted to each other. God built this attraction into us. But sexual intimacy is to take place only when a man leaves his father and his mother and unites with his wife. Only then should they become “one flesh” (Genesis 2: 18-25).
Jesus quoted these passages and added that it is God who joins a man and a woman in marriage, and no human being should separate these two that God has joined. (Matthew 19:3-6 and Mark 10:6-9).
The Apostle Paul wrote about the bonding effect of sexual intimacy (Ephesians 5:31 and 1 Corinthians 6:16).
King Solomon wrote about sex and romance, about how a man and a woman are sexually aroused by each other’s words and bodies, and that one’s virginity is something to be carefully guarded for the right person, for your future spouse (Song of Solomon, especially 4:1-5, 9, 12).
If teens aren’t taught the real meaning of sex they will assume that what they see in the movies or on television or the Internet is normal: that having sex as a teen is okay, even expected. Like the young teen boy who said following a talk on sexual purity, “Nobody ever told me before that I didn’t have to have sex. I thought it was expected.”
The Bible tells us what God intended for sexual intimacy: sex is for a man and a woman who have committed themselves to each other for life. This is the basis of healthy sex education.